It’s something that you hear people say all the time, “well, back to reality”. Such a depressing, vibe killing, view on life. It doesn’t have to be that way though. “Back to reality” doesn’t have to be the worst thing in the world, but many people have made it that way. The scary part is when you tell yourself that statement every day and yet do nothing to change it, hell, we’ve all been guilty of this at one point or another.
See, as an individual, as a group, as a community and as a society, we have made the process of going to a job we hate everyday, normal. We have turned going to work at a place we hate, into something that you “have to do”. Think about it, when your a child, your a dreamer filled with imagination. You have fantastic ideas of what you want to do and what you want to be when you grow up. As you age, everyone around you starts to input the idea of a “job” in your wave of thinking, from our parents to our teachers, even TV & movies. We go from imagining how awesome life is going to be, to “reality”, where getting a job you don’t enjoy at all is what your supposed to do.
Getting hired for a job was never in anybody’s plans, but let me be clear on what I mean by the word “job” in this passage. When we were young and aspired to be doctors, lawyers, athletes and artist, it wasn’t called “work”. We gave those answers when people asked, “what do you want to be when your grow up?”. We seen the positive in these positions, the difference we could make in the world, the entertainment we could bring to the masses. However, society very quickly lets us know that the way we imagined “growing up”, isn’t exactly how they have it planned for us. Sure, somebody has to do the less fancy jobs, the ones that don’t pay so well and don’t get all of the glory, but it doesn’t have to be permanent and you don’t have to hate it.
If your reality is working at a dead-end job for $7.50 per hour it sucks, and theirs no denying that. On the flip side, working at an establishment for $20 or $40 per hour doesn’t necessarily change the fact that this reality also sucks, if it’s not something you WANT to do. Sure, it stings less because the money is better and so life is typically easier, but a problem lies here as well. The more money you make doing something you don’t love, the more likely you are to remain at said position, making decent money while sacrificing your happiness. Some people will argue this view point and tell you that you have all the time after work and on your days off to enjoy life, stop being a complainer. I get it, and for some, making good money and sacrificing 8 hours out of there day is worth it, and doesn’t bother them one bit. Unfortunately, everyone’s mind state is not the same, we all have different levels of ambition, drive, goals and ideas of what truly makes us happy.
Only speaking for myself in this instance, but no 9-5 will EVER truly make me satisfied. I will always yearn to be free, will always want more for myself and will always want my time back. It’s impossible to put a value on your time, yet every day we are asked to just that, and the majority of us are getting short changed. In order for us to change our situation the only option available is to better yourself. Nobody will do it for you, nobody is walking around handing out opportunities of a lifetime to those sitting around waiting for it to come. It’s time to kill that mindset that so many people have on a day to day basis. It’s not ok to be unhappy, and if their is only one thing you strive for with your time on earth, your sole mission should be to make you and everyone around you happy. Not only on Saturday and Sunday, or whatever messed up days off they’ve scheduled for you. Not only outside of the 9-5 window that they’ve employed you for. EVERYDAY you should be happy. EVERYDAY you should be making those around you happy. Your REALITY should be nothing but happy moments and enjoyable times. Of course bad things happen, and their are days we don’t feel the greatest and we are a little off, which is ok.
So next time you catch yourself about to say “back to reality” in a negative manner, ask yourself, “have I tried everything I possibly could to make my reality great?”. Don’t settle for mediocrity. Don’t just do something because society tells you this is how and what should be done. Tap into your potential, your ambition, the dreamer you once were. Better yet, dig deep inside yourself and find the child version of you, the one who’s reality knew nothing other then too be happy. He/She is still there, still dreaming, still imagining, still believing in the reality that wasn’t so bad, so rough.
I will close this out with a true short exchange of words that my son had when he was 3 with the guard who works at the gate/entrance into our community. The guard asked my son, while he sat in the backseat strapped in his car seat with the his door window down, “what do you do when you have a bad day?”. My son quickly responded back to the gentleman at the gate with this bit of child wisdom, “Bad days?…..I don’t have no bad days”. It was in that moment it hit me, all the stress, all the rough times, all the “back to realities” I had said in countless conversation with friends and family. The negativity doesn’t have to be part of my reality, just like they aren’t a part of my sons reality. It’s something that I allowed in,something that I let society tell me was normal to have. From that day forward I have fought my hardest to keep my reality nothing but positive energy. It’s also the day Clock Dodgers was born. It was the day I reclaimed my time to be spent how I seen fit. It was the day I decided to escape my 9 to 5 mindset.